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Public Speaking Tips From A Motivational Speaker

I recently encountered a motivational speaker at a conference I attended for work. After his presentation was over, I was able to talk to him about how he was able to speak so eloquently.

I’m going to share with you some public speaking exercises that he shared with me that can help take the edge off before you ever step on stage. I know it can get tough especially the last 30 minutes before you’re expected to speak, so I’ll share with you some of things I do.

Try to relax. I know that’s just a stupid statement to start with but there are little exercises, especially with self hypnosis that can help you relax. Self hypnosis never worked for me, but before you put yourself in a hypnotic state, you first have to relax and these are the exercises you can use. You need a quiet place where you can focus for a few minutes.

You want to start thinking about your finger tips and how the muscles can relax. Feel them lose their tension, than move up your finger to your hand. The idea is to keep moving up until you hit all of your body.

The next exercise should be you watching yourself do this speech, and doing it calmly. Sometimes looking at through a television screen can make it a little easier. The idea is that you want to run it through your mind that you’re going to calm when you do this speech. You want to show your mind how a calm speech looks and exactly what you do during that speech.

Lastly, be prepared for your speech. That’s just really the most important thing you can do to relax. If you know your speech well enough, it takes a lot of the edge off. Maybe you’re a little nervous about the questions at the end. Practice this. Have someone ask you questions related to your speech. Ones you’ve never heard. It’ll teach you to think on your feet.

People who have a real public speaking fear can be worried about just speaking a little louder in a public place let alone speaking in public to tens, hundreds or thousands of people in a hall or auditorium. It is just the fear of first being under the scrutiny of a number of people and secondly the actual act of having something to say in public.

If you have public speaking fear it means that you are sadly missing out on so many pleasures. The opportunity to get your point across, to make people laugh and most importantly to share your experience or knowledge in public with others.If you suffer from public speaking fear it is possible that your career will suffer considerably because you won’t be as well favored as others who may not be as qualified but are ‘heard’ more often.

Happily public speaking fear can be overcome in a number of ways. Probably the most important way to overcome any public speaking fear you might have is to believe in yourself, start to listen to what you have to say and recognize that you make sense and in fact a lot more sense than most of the people around you.

Then start to tell others your ideas and watch your confidence grow until your public speaking fear has vanished. When you overcome these issues you can get up on stage like many of the best motivational speakers. If you are interested in learning more about what motivational speakers do, read this article.

How To Start Your Speech The Right Way

If you have ever been asked to get up on stage and give a presentation, then you know that how you start your speech is going to be critical so that you can gain the attention of your audience. Without the right introduction, you will lose peoples commitment to listen to the rest of your presentation.

Being a keynote speaker is not easy which is why you must practice and understand everything that is involved with it.

One of the first words you should say in a speech, and what are the last words you should say in a speech. Now tomorrow, I don’t know how many of you are speaking, but I guarantee if you go to conferences, 19 out of 20 speakers will start in one of these ways number one. I’m from tango and this talk is about the latest trend in monitoring strategies. Now all of you are sitting with a piece of paper in front of you. That says I’m a professional public speaker and I’ve come from Ireland, and I’m going to talk about tango 0-4 and this.

So by repeating what you already know, I’m giving a signal that it’s a time to get your smartphone out. I’ve just signals that this talk is and opportunity to reconnect with your phone make sure the office is ok, maybe get some plans together for the weekend.

Another way to start your speech

The lights and some of the mics working and how much time have I got.Is it is it plugged in? You laugh, but I guarantee tomorrow. There’s going to be some moments,They get a little bit up,And,Why because this is for some of you the first time you see this individual. They’re here as a leader in their industry and your kid at school presenting on giraffes does a better job,

That’s sad. I think there’s only three ways of starting a speech. And it’s the same if you went into a bar and there’s a group of people as a networking event much like you were at before you walked into this room and maybe I came up to a group. There’s group of three people who are having a little conversation. I walk in and I say hi. I’m Connor, I’m Irish 38 years old I have an interest in sailing. I like running and they’ve walked away. How do you get people to engage with you when you’re networking?

Engaging dialogue

I say in networking the best thing you can do is walk up. I think we know someone in common,Try and walk away when someone comes up and says that to you,Hopefully, you’ve done your research, so you do know that you’ve know someone in common, but with LinkedIn,You can find out who knows who on anyone you want?

So how do you start a speech the right way?

The first way – With a question that matters to the audience. How do you phrase a problem that the audience faces in a question. So that’d be the third best way of starting a speech. The second best way of starting a speech with a factoid that shocks. There’s more people alive today than have ever died,More people alive today than have ever died. There’s a lot of speeches that can follow on from there. Every two minutes.

The energy reaching the earth from the Sun is, equivalent to the whole annual usage of humanity. All the energy all the cars everything moving all the lighting all the air conditioning of the world in,One year is equivalent to two minutes of Sun. Does that change how you think about energy,So what’s a fact that shocks the audience into rethinking?,and,Google has transformed your ability to get at these facts,Given two or three minutes you can find out one whether anything I’ve said is true,But you trust me because I,Look the part, and I’m from ESA,those are in fact two true facts.

I usually get someone come up to me and are you sure but how do they measure dead and alive,But it’s true, and it’s not even close,But the best way to,Start a speech and the way that I hope all of you use from now forward,is the same way,We start a story to a child,Now how do we start a story to a child?,And I say once upon a time. And what happens when you say once upon a time I can tell you what happens when I say once upon a time my daughter,leans forward,gets ready to hear,engages,and,We were all trained as kids,to know when a story’s coming,We also know when a teacher is about to deliver a 40 minute boring lecture that has no impact on our lives.

So if you are serious about being a speaker, its important that you understand some basic mechanics of how to start a speech the right way.

How To Deal With A Struggling Teenager

If you are like most parents, chances are when your child reaches the teenage years things can become very difficult. From listening to loud music, being lazy and unmotivated, or becoming defiant and rebellious, every parent dreads the moment when their good little boy or girl becomes the troubled teen.

Teenagers who don’t love themselves call other people who do, egoistic and arrogant. Why? Cause your persona is weak so you can make yourself better then me, by calling me egomaniac OK… I will be egomaniac, but you will die from cigarettes or alcohol. When you love yourself you will not let yourself fail to the point where there is no back. If 9 people fail so I can success they don’t love their self enough, not my fault and not my ego, they don’t want to be where they could if i failed instead of them… Love yourself so you can love others!

Americans always have these powerful sayings and inspirational quotes to help motivate teenagers that sounds so true. But the fact of the matter is they rarely are. Instead these different sayings make market due to their punch and power, not their content if you analyze it. This can be very confusing for some teenagers who might believe these things.

Teens are confused in today’s world and that’s why all these self named gurus appear with semi-wisdom that the masses loves hearing. It’s all bull if you ask me. The material wins that this actor speaks of gives you nothing and you won’t grow, but the materialism will end up owning you, not the other way around. This is why its much better for your teen to work with a life coach or mentor rather than just hearing some nice motivational words.

Whats being left out is the fact that your will follows your insights. You can do what you want, but you can not want what you want – just like Schopenhauer said. Your WANTING changes with your INSIGHTS. I´m not talking about awareness which is only one aspect of insight. Ever asked yourself why you did things “wrong” in the past which you would probably do better now? Well, that’s because of insights. Call it wisdom if you like.

There is a book named “getting things done without a spark of self-discipline”. Free life is not about discipline, its about what you really love to for yourself – not for others, not to impress others, not to follow their ideas – just for yourself because you love to do it. All the rest is a performance – which means that you stride away from yourself.

The way to your inner self is a way of love, not of discipline. Again, you don´t need discipline to do things you love. Well, I guess few people will understand this. We are being brought up to become performers, not free people. It´s hard to get rid of those old patterns. Good luck, you who read this. May you learn to lovingly connect to your inner child.

Can An Online Coach Help You Reach Your Goals?

When it comes to reaching your goals, its important to look at all the options you have available these days. And because people are so busy with very little time to add more activities in their life, it can be challenging to drive across the town and waste an hour in traffic just to meet with someone. This is especially true for students or working professionals.

In the last couple of years online coaching have been addressing these issues with great success. While there are still some drawbacks to serving clients in this way, for the most part it is showing a lot of positive signs. In a recent discussion with some clients, we discussed on a group coaching call some of their feelings and thoughts on the idea of goal setting and reaching their full potential.

I’ve been feeling stressed everyday because of the amount of heavy assignments that are required by my university courses and the pressure of doing well in order to get into the post graduate I want and the career I dream of. Over all of this I never thought to slow down and really take things one step at a time, and because of that I was wasting half of my time stressing about the whole instead of focussing on the ‘grey squares’. This talk has really opened my eyes. I feel now that I really do have the ability to do what I want to do. Thank you.

Here’s what’s really impressive about these very interesting statistics. Novak doesn’t control any of them. If you’ve ever coached, played, or officiated ANY SPORT this stands out as an idiotic statement. Novak controls almost all of it… Of course the road to victory is built one action at a time but this speaker is illiterate when it comes to the mentality that great athletes have.

Instead of assuming that I would suddenly settle down and focus on learning, I decided to assume I wouldn’t. And so if I wanted to achieve the type of outcome that I desired (doing well in school), I was going to have to actually change my approach.” That’s a great approach. Definitely going to try that. A big reason why I’m such a master procrastinator, I think, is because I’m constantly assuming that I could stop procrastinating anytime I want.

One thing that is becoming more evident to me is that a significant amount of very successful people are not “motivated”, “driven”, and do not always have a sense of deep purpose which is why its useful to hire a life coach.

Some successful people do not have much energy or talent to work with. So, these people need to be strategic with how they spend their resources.

I remember hearing a similar story to this man’s about a lady who broke the world record for the greatest amount of times for a woman to swim the English channel. Her philosophy is similar to this man’s. During the countless hours of swimming she would keep repeating “just 10 more minutes”.

This is a good idea if you wish to avoid being overwhelmed. Know where you want to get to – but then focus on what’s in front of you. Don’t waste your time taking on battles you’re not ready for. Take on the battles you can win and eventually you’ll be more than ready for bigger ones.

Very inspiring and I love that there is a common trait “ambition ” . He broke it down early how simple it is. The feeling of achieving a goal sets motivation to achieve more goals. HOWEVER, one part that got me was in the German language section. This is the only time he mentioned his kids. As a father, time is not as available. But I will take this and achieve my goals

You see what stands between us and achieving even our most ambitious dreams has far less to do with possessing some magical skill or talent, and far more to do with how we approach problems and make decisions to solve them.
But i didn’t stop there because the truth of the matter is I’m an undisciplined person and i knew that at some point id switch away from the language and go back to the music, so i removed that temptation by removing all of the music.
Marginal adjustment to my daily routine, to my process and now i can speak some German.
It;s about picking up a book and reading one word, if you read one word you’ll read 2 words, 3 words, a sentence, a paragraph, a page, a chapter, a book, you’ll read 10 books, 30 books, 50 books.
All i do i take really big ambitious projects and people seem to marvel at, break them down to their simplest form and then just make marginal improvements along the way to improve my odds of achieving them.
And so the whole reason I’m giving this talk is that I’m hoping to inspire several of you to pull some of those ambitious dreams that you have for yourself off the bookshelf and start pursuing them by making that marginal adjustment to your routine.

Obviously these “marginal adjustments” must be kept up. So, you must create a habit. Some say this takes about 60 days to make happen consistently. But; I believe this should be of a nature that is of benefit to you (otherwise, why would you do it?) So, the way I see it you must make a list with all the reasons you need to implement these marginal adjustments. Please feel free to add any suggestions you may have to this comment.

don’t believe it at all! I work so hard with my studying and it really takes me hours and hours, there is no short cut, and I don’t have time at the end of the day for any thing else, of course I go on procrastinating as my brain needs to wind down, we all need some down time. But I just don’t see this working in my life. My life coach taught me that if you work hard and smart results will happen.

I’ve been putting the one tiny step at a time thing into practice for the last 6 months and it’s helping me to write my PhD. But I have to say, that yarn bombing thing sounds like a waste of time. Only someone who has a lot of resources and time on their hands would find time to do this. Who is it helping?

Yes, that’s what I have been doing in the recent year – meditate during my commute, listen to life-improving audiobooks when walking and doing chores, wear ankle weights under my business suit, practice martial arts at the bus stop, hack my sleep, etc. – but it’s nice to have a good term for it.

This is a principle others espouse, but I have never seen it explained so clearly the way he does. Basically, breaking tasks into manageable amounts like the expression, “how do you eat an elephant?”. He applies it to large tasks like making the Dean’s List and small tasks like crocheting. I think another distinction is only 5-10 minutes of an activity at a time.

He achieves so many things in his little life. Few people can’t do that. I’m also a very undisciplined guy and recently the same idea comes in my mind. Break down every decision in little tasks that I could achieve with little focus and it works. It really works. I hope one day I could achieve so many projects and live my life at it

This is so inspiring because the person achieved his goals after considering that he won’t change all of sudden one day from a C student who couldn’t concentrate to an A student who could concentrate. After accepting this reality that overnight wonders wont happen, he began to change slowly. One step at a time. I think the small steps that he took made a difference in his life. This is something we all need to do. Accept who we are completely and not lie to ourselves that some spider will bite us and change of our life fir good.

Yes it is like the idea of start with your one year, five year goals in mind. For each one, work backwards to the monthly, weekly, then daily goals, and he takes it a step further to the minute by minute stuff, and the minute decisions as it were. All making you more likely to succeed in a given goal.

The guy forgot to mention he is super determined. Most people with 5 minute attention spans don’t have the determination to keep going back to things which this guy had to do a million times. Being successful requires determination which is the very thing short attention people lack or they would stick at things. He bases his whole thing on breaking things up into manageable units. Not a bad notion, but came out ions ago as a mental trick.

Relationship Advice From The Life Coach

We all know that relationships are not easy. But when they are approached by two loving and caring individuals, they can provide a great deal of joy and fulfillment. But without the right tools such as communication, a lot of conflict and heartache can arise.

I recently received a letter from one of my clients who is going through some hard times and here is what she had to share:

My ex boyfriend and I dated ever since our freshmen year in high school. We’ve been dating for five years (til our second year in college). Our story started off quite dramatic because my friends also liked him and two of his friends also liked me. Once we started dating, we’re on our own. It’s like our friends are against us and we don’t have anyone beside each other. I guess you can say we gave up a lot just to be with each other.

Our first three years was very sweet, just like any other long term relationship. We never have any break (taking a break) within our relationship and we spend almost every day together. I’m always a jealous and overly protective type of girlfriend due to the fact that many girls also liked him. Because of that, negative thoughts always flooded my mind when he’s away and I always accused him of liking other girls when most of the time, he’s with me (either on the phone or in person).

As a Hmong girl, there comes a point when you feel the urge to get marry. Going into college, I saw my friends getting married one by one. My ex boyfriend was a very career oriented at the time and he doesn’t want to get marry yet. He believe that marriage will be a burden to him and will slow him down. For me, I believed that if we truly love each other, marriage won’t slow him down and it will only support him through his education. We may have many things in common, but unfortunately, we see things differently when it comes to getting marriage.

During our fifth year, I’ve lost most of my feelings for him. I can’t say that I’ve lost those feelings, it’s more like they are hidden and buried deep down inside. I see him as being unattractive even though he’s still the same guy who’re in great shape physically. Everything he did seems to make me dislike him more and more. He still come and spend time with me almost every day and talk to me on the phone like usual. I guess I was bored within our relationship. There was nothing new anymore.

One day I met a guy and I tried to broke up with my boyfriend. He was crying and he doesn’t want us to break apart. I gave our relationship a second chance to see if i still see him the same way. A month later, I still see him the same way which mean i no longer have feelings for him. I guess part of the reason was because in that one month, I’ve been keeping in touch with my new buy and soon to be my husband.

I then broke up with my boyfriend and two months later got married to my husband. During those two months before i got married to my husband, my boyfriend was constantly trying to call me and he stalked me at school, my work place and even at my house. So I thought I want to put an end to it by getting married. After he heard that I got married, he stop completely.

A week into my new life with my husband, I feel just fine. I’m actually glad that I got away from my ex boyfriend and his desperate ways. My boyfriend actually made me angry during the time he was chasing after me after our break up. Then one night, I just couldn’t sleep. As I was thinking of my ex boyfriend, tears were dripping down onto my pillow. Thousands of questions and thoughts entered my mind as I tried to sleep and live a happy life with my husband.

During that time when he no longer chasing me and he’s no longer there, i feel the pain of losing him. I feel the pain of a broken heart. The worst part is i broke my own heart. I should’ve give our relationship a real second chance, but no I did not. It hit me the hardest when I went to bed at night. When everything quiet down, thousands of thoughts came to mind. My sleepy husband wouldn’t know my suffering and I cannot find a way to express my thoughts to him because it wouldn’t be right. Turning to my side was my husband sleeping. I wish it was him, my ex boyfriend. I missed him so much. I miss the scent of him, that handsome face, the silly humor, and how he’s so motivated to achieve something through going to school. Then I remember him telling me that he want to finish school and get a good paying job so that I, his future wife, won’t have to work.

After three years, I still think of him from time to time. There are so many things that will remind me of him. I saw him at the Hmong New Year a few times and he look happy. I just couldn’t get my mind off of him when ever I see that handsome face. Even on a happy day, if i see him just one glance, it would ruin me for the rest of the day. It seems to me like he had moved on so quick. I heard that he started going out again just a month after i took off with my husband. Sometime i still question myself if he really truly love me when we were together since he moved on that quick. I guess maybe he’s just trying to cope with a broken heart by going out so quick. It hurt me every time just thinking that someone will get to be with him. He’s handsome and well educated. I don’t want to see any woman within his arms. But I guess i was young and made stupid mistakes.